A lot of peoples ride their bikes like dicks. Daredeviling, riding on the sidewalk, cycling with a speedy sense of entitlement or superiority, blithely cutting off both pedestrians and other people on bikes. For a mode trying to get more traction in a country born and raised on the car – especially up against a large, loud and lethal culture of drivers who hate people on bikes – it’s not a good look.

This isn’t to deny the noble war being fought against the scourge of car culture. I count myself as a soldier in that war. But among soldiers fighting a war, there are codes of honor. As I see it, the same idea applies to the battlefield of our city streets.

Not everyone plays clean in this war. I get it. A lot of operators of cars, trucks and motorcycles are horrible, literally putting people’s lives in danger or even ending them. It’s a dirty battle, sometimes stained in blood. But I never presumed that this harsh reality buys me a license to carry on with a reckless ‘fuck-you’ flair when I’m on my bike.

Against this backdrop and the decades of experience I have riding a bicycle in the city, I’ve learned to maneuver around the metropolis on my two wheels with a simple code: Ride like a gentleman.

For me, riding like a gentleman means slowing it down and chilling out. The hefty Citi Bikes in New York max at around 15 mph or so. When I’m pedaling a busy street or bike lane, I doubt I ever hit that on my own considerably breezier ride. I’m not on an open road. I’m in a city, where I’m sharing very limited space with pedestrians, children, dogs, handicapped people, cars and, of course, others riding bicycles. There is a lot going on, suggesting that I need to ride with consideration, awareness and courtesy.

I always grant pedestrians the right of way and plenty of space, giving them no cause to fear me as I ride by – or at least a pleasant surprise if they expected to fear me. On a crowded street or lane, I dial it way down and take it very easy.

As for awareness, it’s also worth noting I never listen to headphones when I ride. No music, no podcasts, no nothin’. Years ago, I used to ride with headphones on all the time. In retrospect, I don’t know what I was thinking. But I also used to think I was invincible, which might’ve had something to do with it. These days, I need full eyesight and hearing on board when I’m riding my bike. And beyond the safety aspect, riding without any hearing impediments offers me the unique, cacaphonous and glorious symphony that is the sound of the city – and the opportunity to hear my name when a friend spots me and shouts ‘Hello’ from across the street.

In general, riding on sidewalks is a no-no. In New York City, it’s a legal no-no. Even in cities where it isn’t technically illegal, it just feels rude to me, especially if there are pedestrians. In Cleveland, where I currently live and where sidewalk cycling doesn’t seem to warrant a ticket, taking to the sidewalk is often necessary if I want to stay alive because there is really no safe cycling infrastructure anywhere on the city’s streets. But when it’s an open street with no threatening car traffic, enabling me to bike safely, I’ll hit the road.

As far as traffic lights are concerned, I obey the laws… sort of. Our traffic laws, lights and signs as we know them were essentially designed for cars, which weigh 3 to 4 tons and move at high speeds. I’m on a 30 pound bicycle, which makes the combined weight of me and my bike about 180 pounds, seldom moving faster than 10 or 12 mph. The rules that apply to cars need not be as rigidly applied to bicycles, in my opinion. For example, I’m a fan and practitioner of the “Idaho Stop,” which suggests I treat red lights like stop signs (stop, then proceed if safe) and stop signs like yield signs (slow to a crawl, then proceed if safe). Unfortunately, I got busted for this once going down 9th Avenue in Manhattan. A cop stopped me for proceeding through a red light (after I’d made a complete and gentlemanly stop), and handed me a citation. Two weeks later, a judge sentenced me to a day of community service, which meant spending an entire morning dragging a giant trash can around Times Square, sweeping up trash and cigarette butts in a blue jumpsuit, full-on Boy George style. But I still practice the Idaho Stop.

As city bicyclists wage the war on cars, it doesn’t pay to be a dick. It’s bad PR. Instead, I opt to ride like a gentleman, with residual hopes to inspire others to look at how I ride and think, “Wow. That looks nice. I want to try that.” That’s how it happened for me, when I observed a guy many years ago happily and casually riding his handsome vintage Raleigh on the Upper West Side with courtesy. Because of his example (and the example of unwitting others, of course), that’s how I roll today.

The New Oxford American Dictionary defines “gentleman” as “a chivalrous, courteous, or honorable man.” Applying such simple standards to riding a bicycle is better for everyone concerned.


  1. W. Brown

    Excellent post. I found out about your blog from a Facebook Group (Slow Bicycling) after a fellow member spoke of you and your blog. She later blocked me after she thought I was a right-winger, but hey, I discovered your blog.

    I began commuting by bicycle over 7 years ago in the Ft Lauderdale area because I wanted to. I commuted for 6 1/2 years, 200 miles/week, year-round. I was hit by negligent drivers 3 times. Two were driving using a hand-held device. The last time I was hit by a pickup truck from behind, and nearly killed (brain injury). Still recovering from that one over a year later. Anyway, I ride older English bicycles and a couple of newer Pashleys, and ride in street clothes and regular shoes. When in traffic, I obey laws as long as my safety is not compromised, recognize courteous behavior from motorists and extend the same to them. I mind my own business and think of others as well as myself. But when someone goes out of their way to be mean to me, they get it right back, because that is all people like that understand, and they deserve nothing better from me. We will be moving from here so I can once again ride daily, in a safer environment, but until then I do the best I can. And I refuse to become an asshole, because then I will be like them.

  2. I always love what you have to say, but I really love this photo of you! You look marvelous!

  3. Great thoughts ! I would add that a bike bell is an inexpensive essential that pays huge dividends when paired with a non-douche-bag riding style. People literally will smile and thank you. Except for folks with both AirPods inserted – if they cant hear me ringing, oh well I tried, sorry I scared you. We can

  4. Leila Zogby

    I asked my husband, a serious city cyclist, to read your post and he thoroughly enjoyed it. So, compliments from one gentleman rider to another.

  5. I love the irony that you have an automobile ad pop-up banner at the top of this article.